The thought of blogging had always been on my mind but my laziness got the better of me and never quite started one. I did; however, note down the topics on which I would like to write but, err... that was about it. Just wrote down the titles.
Today, at last I have successfully brought myself to figure out the labyrinthine ways to create a blog. I scroll through the first few fields- name, DOB, user ID password, blog address, introduction - that was it! The moment I saw this field, I lost interest. The "About me" field anywhere has always been a tough one for me.
In school, you join in a new club - introduce; enter college - introduce; want to learn a foreign language- " cool!" I sign up and the first class - "presentez-vous!"; Applying for a job - Tell me about yourself; MBA - Introduce and the trickiest of all, when you succumb to a typical Indian arranged marriage, the "describe yourself" in matrimonial pages. aarrgghh..! makes me want to rip myself apart...
Frankly speaking, I have never answered this question in all honesty and I doubt that everyone does. The "fine-tuning" may vary in intensity from person to person; but, mostly an introduction is sort of a "make-up". The intentions, however, may not necessarily be vile.
I thought, it is perhaps the fear of not being accepted by a desired community or a group, that makes us twist and manipulate the real person that we are. Unintentionally, we behave differently with different people so that we do not violate any "social protocol". A thought started forming. I asked myself, why does our introduction change as regularly as we give it; sometimes, even altering the core traits? Ruminating over this, I realised that as we meet new people, face new situations, we are continuously in the process of adapting; learning and unlearning. In this process, we get influenced by a certain..umm...event. Events, like a book that I read, a movie, or a person I meet. The thoughts and the beliefs shared during these transactions would seem to manifest as my behaviour becoming a trait. It made me wonder if I am losing touch with my original self? If I am faking by importing behaviours? I desperately started looking for a genuine reasoning to explain this.
I feel, this only human. This how our behaviours evolve. When you come across something so powerful and convincing, you tend to emulate it. We are different people with unique set of IQ EQ and Social-Q and when we find something slightly similar in another person, we latch on and desire to be a part of that group because,, here, your skills, attributes, thoughts are acknowledged and appreciated. It perhaps is the innate human nature to, (a) be accepted (b) conform, or (c) intimidate, that manipulates the portrayal of oneself. Mind you, we always look for something 'similar' in the other person, not different. Eventually we may begin to appreciate the difference, but that's not the point here. That's not how we socialise. We socialise by looking for similarities.
So, the projection of oneself anywhere, is driven by the need to socialise. When we introduce, we highlight the qualities and beliefs that we feel are unique to us along with showing the side that makes us a part of that situation.
Today, at last I have successfully brought myself to figure out the labyrinthine ways to create a blog. I scroll through the first few fields- name, DOB, user ID password, blog address, introduction - that was it! The moment I saw this field, I lost interest. The "About me" field anywhere has always been a tough one for me.
In school, you join in a new club - introduce; enter college - introduce; want to learn a foreign language- " cool!" I sign up and the first class - "presentez-vous!"; Applying for a job - Tell me about yourself; MBA - Introduce and the trickiest of all, when you succumb to a typical Indian arranged marriage, the "describe yourself" in matrimonial pages. aarrgghh..! makes me want to rip myself apart...
Frankly speaking, I have never answered this question in all honesty and I doubt that everyone does. The "fine-tuning" may vary in intensity from person to person; but, mostly an introduction is sort of a "make-up". The intentions, however, may not necessarily be vile.
I thought, it is perhaps the fear of not being accepted by a desired community or a group, that makes us twist and manipulate the real person that we are. Unintentionally, we behave differently with different people so that we do not violate any "social protocol". A thought started forming. I asked myself, why does our introduction change as regularly as we give it; sometimes, even altering the core traits? Ruminating over this, I realised that as we meet new people, face new situations, we are continuously in the process of adapting; learning and unlearning. In this process, we get influenced by a certain..umm...event. Events, like a book that I read, a movie, or a person I meet. The thoughts and the beliefs shared during these transactions would seem to manifest as my behaviour becoming a trait. It made me wonder if I am losing touch with my original self? If I am faking by importing behaviours? I desperately started looking for a genuine reasoning to explain this.
I feel, this only human. This how our behaviours evolve. When you come across something so powerful and convincing, you tend to emulate it. We are different people with unique set of IQ EQ and Social-Q and when we find something slightly similar in another person, we latch on and desire to be a part of that group because,, here, your skills, attributes, thoughts are acknowledged and appreciated. It perhaps is the innate human nature to, (a) be accepted (b) conform, or (c) intimidate, that manipulates the portrayal of oneself. Mind you, we always look for something 'similar' in the other person, not different. Eventually we may begin to appreciate the difference, but that's not the point here. That's not how we socialise. We socialise by looking for similarities.
So, the projection of oneself anywhere, is driven by the need to socialise. When we introduce, we highlight the qualities and beliefs that we feel are unique to us along with showing the side that makes us a part of that situation.
